2007/08/31

Enough of the Craig "scandal" !

I don't know if you're like me... but it is getting to a point... that 'nuf is 'nuf? It's all over the media.

One might say it's fair game. 'Tit for 'tat. The Republicans didn't hesitate when they caught some Democrats pants down. Even a certain Monica, smoking a presidential cigar...

The problem about the said presidential cigar... there was nothing illegal. It was between *consenting* adults, after all. Cheating is not nice though and certainly immoral, but it is still legal, and certainly isn't worth impeachment procedures.

In the case of the senator, it had nothing to do between consenting adults and he was breaking the law. As a senator, who preaches morality high and low, and also a guy who writes laws, he should know that.

The media focused on the salacious side, but to me there's another aspect: Privacy!

I don't know but when I have to go to the restrooms, for the duration of my business, this stall is *my* stall, and that's that! Keep your foot out of my stall! It's equivalent for someone breaking in my house! That's my personal space being invaded!

Back at FC, I differ a bit of opinion with my fellow blogger GypsyTunes. She's thinking that the treatment the senator had was unfair and there was an immense sense of injustice.

Personally, I think exact opposite. He did get a fair amount of justice, more than whatever will come out from the judicial system itself.

First a taste of his own medicine... and he will have also some highly unpleasant 'splanations to do with his wife. Not all that unfair, if you ask me. :)

As a guy with a weak bladder, I have no choice but make a lot of "pit stops" at these public restrooms. (and I'm one rare guys who has to do his Kegel exercises like the women... with the same VERY interesting side-effects, but I digress terribly here! ) . So a few times in my life, I've been the prime target of these guys.

Gypsy called that flirting. Personally, this is no flirting at all!!

The reason for this is simple, and this is not just proper to the human race, but common to all mammals: There is ONE time which we want to be alone, that one time which we feel vulnerable... and it is when we have to stop... and do our business. Number 1 or 2, or both if you're unlucky. :)

And it is because we feel vulnerable and these guys know it, so this is why they hang up in restrooms and zoom on their prey. They're so mixed up in their sex life that it is the only way for them to have what they want. In the middle of doing our business, we're hardly in a position to run out!!

I'm not prude, and those who know me will confirm that there's not much that will offend me. Besides, I have a few kinks of my own. The point is this: Between consenting adults, on equal terms, freely and willingly, anything goes. I will always stand by that.

However in *this* case, using the same metaphor, it's like someone breaking into your house and then asking if it's okay to stay with you. Sounds like intimidation, if you ask me! Therefore, so much for the mutual consents, given freely and willingly. So that's the point I try to made at FC... before the service went belly up this morning.

One thing that was allowed to fly in the media and that royally irked me is his statement "I'm not gay, I have never been gay". Oh boy...

The feel to answer nature's call is universal, therefore universal is the need for... privacy... regardless of one's sexual orientation. Gay men understand that, just like hetero men.

However, if you have kept tabs of similar headlines, haven't you noticed that those guys who are hanging in restrooms for sex are often... *heterosexual* men?

My 2-cent theory to that, as I've seen this in other circumstances, they're so messed up in their life that having sex with women is impossible, so they turn to men, -and at a time we're most vulnerable-, such as restrooms, to get what they can't get. They close their eyes and they imagine that it is a woman doing the deed.

Sure, there are likely to be some gay men who will also hang out in restrooms... but what I'm saying is that the senator implied that you have to be gay to do "those" things... when in fact, it is utterly false!

Now, the US media are on a roll, and I'm getting an overdose.

I was flabbergasted to see some news channels running polls after polls. Is he hypocrite yes or no? Is the Republican party hypocrite? Is a divorce in the air, yes or no? What do you think of his conduct? Will his kids suffer when they go in public, such as at school? Etc, etc, ad nauseam...

I have zero sympathy for that guy... he admitted guilt, and his statements were additional confirmations that he really did it. OK, fine (pun intended. :) ). As I said, he's probably getting more justice than what the justice would ever come to. Fine as well.

But a wrong doing by one doesn't excuse wrong doings by others. From what I'm seeing this morning, and probably that's just the tip of the iceberg... I think that point has been reached.

Cheers,

-E

2 comments:

Irina said...

hehe, I can see your point, of course. Privacy is a great point. And, by the way, it's not about sympathy towards the aforesaid senator for me, either. It's about how the law works. In mny view, making advances should not be illegal. Period. It's a dangerous territory, to ban people from behaving like the sexual beings they are. And, if he were doing it with a female, he would have never been noticed, let alone forced to resign, would he? This whole case is about prejudice against other forms of sexuality, Eski, please, understand. And it's not right. And, again, I am not the senator's fan in any way.

The Eskimo said...

Rina,

We aren't that far apart, I entirely agree with your views!

What makes a difference, and for what he's been accused for, it's doing so at a restroom's airport.

We go to the public restrooms because we have to! If we had a choice, no one would be there! So restroom is no neutral terrain, and therefore this is an area that should be free of proposals, period!

In a bar, at a restaurant, or on any *neutral terrain*, there wouldn't be a legal case!

Besides, if he was going specifically in *gay* bars, there are lots of proposals flying around. :)

In gay saunas, they don't just talk about it, they're having it... and it's all legal! Also in both venues, people are there out on their free will.

Personally, it tells me a lot that the senator was making sex proposals in men's restrooms, when the people aren't there... by choice.

As a bi person, trust me, I'm all in favor of sex between men. :)

I hope that I clarify my point.

Cheers!!

-J